When we start off in life, there’s a lot of change.
Memories of starting school for the first time. Making new friends. Climbing through the year and always looking to be that much more of a grown-up.
If you’re lucky you get to experience new places around the world. Visit spaces that will permanently engrain themselves onto your memory.
Early years are a mad rush of change. Until eventually school is over, and you’re told that ‘the world is your oyster’ but you’re gazing out at a city that somehow needs penetrating. There are so many paths, all that involve change. Which way do you turn?
At some point along the line, commitments begin to build. You’re paying rent or a mortgage. The bills won’t pay themselves. In a committed relationship (with potentially little ones), your desires are no longer the lone priority. You become a provider who is fighting back a world that threatens a loss of control. If you’re lucky, you get comfortable.
Once a journalist told me that most people live their lives in a box. They drive to work in a box, work in a box, go home to watch the box, sleep in a box, and eventually get carried out (dead) in a box. Insinuating that you need a life and career that fights back the box mentality, in his case journalism provided that for him.
The obstacle is comfort. Personally, for me, it’s the enemy of change. At worst, the excuse for not achieving your dreams.
I cringe when walking down this self-help path, so let me quote someone who talks about change more eloquently than I ever could. Linda Ellerbee quoted in Improvised Life said,
“What I like most about change is that it’s a synonym for ‘hope.’ If you are taking a risk, what you are really saying is, ‘I believe in tomorrow and I will be part of it.”
Change means risk. But look a bit deeper, what is the risk?
The time for change might be now. After all, change in life is inevitable.